Let’s stop the bullies. Bullying doesn't just occur with children and teenagers but with adults, too.
You Might Be a Bully If…
- You use social media, emails, texts, and phone calls to
harass someone.
- You get into a dispute with someone on Facebook and
continue to go to the conversation (on someone else’s post) to issue more
attacks and taunt them for not responding.
- You post rants on social media and keep adding insults
about someone in the comment section, especially if he/she can see it.
- You use people’s pasts or insecurities as insults against
them.
- No matter what someone does to improve their life or
themselves, you don’t stop making fun of them.
- You purposefully seek someone out to poke fun at them.
- You make fun of someone for how they look and the clothes
they wear.
- The only way for you to feel better yourself and your life is to put others down.
- You physically and verbally attack someone for being
different.
- You use someone’s sexual orientation, race, or religion
as a reason to torment them.
- You don’t stop bothering someone even after they ask you
to leave them alone.
- You make people cry and you laugh at their tears.
- You target people smaller and weaker than you.
- Your taunts force someone to take drastic measures.
(Move, transfer to a new school, quit their job, or harm themselves.)
- You’re reading this and thinking “Eff you…”, “That’s
stupid…”, or “This is BS.”
STOP BULLYING!
If some of these things sound like you,
make a vow to change today.
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A timely post, Chrys!
ReplyDeleteYes. I always like to post something about bullying during October.
DeleteUsually the bully is a miserable person who only feels better when putting others down.
ReplyDeleteYou're right. That's the first pointer under the picture in my post. :)
Delete"You make fun of someone for how they look and the clothes they wear." You know, this kinda hit home for me. Yesterday, I met up with my brother and his wife, along with my parents. We don't get together often, maybe once a month. I'm used to biting comments from my brother's wife, since she's been in the family for 16 years now. I have been dubbed "Crazy Aunt Loni" because I enjoy dying my hair unnatural colors. I'm caught in a mental trap. I know coloring my hair makes me stand out and draws attention. At the same time, I don't like being labeled as if I was the socially awkward family member to be avoided. I'm fairly sure it wasn't meant that way, but that was what it made me feel. My status with my brother's family is self-imposed because of my choice in hair color, but is thinking I brought this on myself akin to victim-blaming? Or is that the definition of bullying?
ReplyDeleteWe don't bring it upon ourselves for what we dye our hair or wear. We do it because it makes us happy. The people who make fun of us for it might have a different opinion, may not like it, or would never do it, but that doesn't give them the right to bully us or call us crazy. I was bullied in school for my shoes and even my nail polish color. It was bright green, and girls said it looked like fungus. I loved the color, but they made me feel ashamed I had it on. Not cool.
DeleteYep, such people need to go pound sand. Just because they are miserable doesn't mean they have to make everyone else miserable.
ReplyDeleteThey can pound the sand, and we'll take a stand.
DeleteBullying is a pattern and there are so many ways to bully in the Internet age.
ReplyDeleteIt's scary nowadays with the Internet.
DeleteHere, here! Great post.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Christine! :)
DeleteHi Chrys .. or a man, siding with another man, and trying to bring down a woman - so often the case ... I'm a-fighting ... cheers Hilary
ReplyDeleteOh, yes. Sexism is definitely a form of bullying.
DeleteSo true, Chrys. Not just children are bullies. They grow up to be adult bullies. They're in the news constantly. Which is rather sad because they get exactly what they want: attention for being a bully. Thank you for this important post.
ReplyDeleteIf something isn't done, they sure can grow up to be adult bullies. That's why the pattern needs to be broken. And parents as well as teachers are key in doing that.
DeleteThe world has always had bullies, the problem now is they get so much press that you can't avoid them. Good post.
ReplyDeleteBullies are becoming more and more empowered. Now it's time for the victims to become empowered.
DeleteI've been seeing a lot of bullying going around on my Facebook feed because of people's differing opinions on US Politics. I don't even think people realize they're doing it.
ReplyDeletePolitics is a bad area. Everyone thinks their views are right and whoever is against them is wrong. Even people who don't usually bully people commit political bullying.
DeleteAs a little girl, I found myself in the cross hairs of a bully. I was very timid and easy to make cry. At the time, I hated it. But when I hit my teens years, I appreciated that in my history. It taught me to be more sensitive to the people around me.
ReplyDeleteI was a victim to bullies several times as a little girl and as a teen. Even as an adult. It's made me stronger. Bow I'm much more likely to speak up.
DeleteBullies. What crappy people. Work on yourself. Don't tear someone else down, build yourself up. Making others feel worse will not make you feel better.
ReplyDelete*applauds* Bullies tend to have low self-esteem. They really do need to build themselves up and grow as a person.
DeleteGood list, Chrys. I was bullied on Facebook. I had to block the person. I couldn't make a pleasant comment on someone else's post without her attacking me. I used to know her in person. She attacked me physically then. I never saw her again and never answered the phone when she called. She was much larger than I am. Bullying is horrible.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
Bullying is horrible. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Bullying can get very nasty on Facebook. I've seen it.
DeleteI was bullied in junior high, mostly because people falsely thought I was a lesbian. All I said was that gays are just like any other people, and certain jerks assumed that could only mean I was gay myself. This was 1992–4, before gay rights had come as far as they have now. As an adult, I don't regret taking the stand I did, even though it cost me dearly.
ReplyDeleteIn April, I became one of the targets of the infamous K i w i F a r m s pro-bullying, pro-stalking, pro-doxxing site, and I'm hoping my cyberstalker loses interest in me eventually. I won't write their name normally because I don't want to give them any further traffic or attract their attention. The people on that site have bullied and stalked some of their targets so badly, they've been driven to suicide. Even after these suicides, these bullies continue mocking them, like saying they're surprised a coffin was normally-sized instead of double-wide.
I'm proud of you having never wavering in your belief. Bath then, it was very hard to stand up for gay rights.
DeleteI don't believe you for not wanting them to gain any traffic. Typing out their name like that was smart.
That is truly horrible. I can't believe a site like that is still up.
There will unfortunately always be mean people in the world. The internet has empowered them greatly. As have those who foolishly call that free speech. Halloween used to be so much fun...
ReplyDeleteI know. Bullies will always find a way and always exist. :(
DeleteThe last one was my favorite. Way to put bullies on blast Chrys (reverse psychology lives!). Indeed these people are sad empty individuals on the inside. I could not imagine dedicating my life to hurting others. Change is definitely needed.
ReplyDeleteThe last one is my favorite, too. ;)
DeleteChange is greatly needed.
Some people never mature. They may get older, but they're still repeating habits of a junior high or high school bully. I wish I had been brave enough to stand up to those who bullied me in junior high. (What an awful age.) Great post, Chrys.
ReplyDeleteJunior High was the time when I was bullied the most. It is an awful age.
DeleteIn my opinion, bullies are really cowards. They sometimes pick on those weaker than themselves, kids or adults that won't fight back. Good subject.
ReplyDeleteI think you're right.
DeleteThey're doing an anti-bullying month in the school district I work for. This was very timely.
ReplyDeleteOctober is National Bullying Awareness Month. :)
DeleteBullying is terrible and we all thought it was just for mean kids, but adults have used anonymity and the Internet to take bullying to a new a darker level. I'm glad to see you're focused on it this month. We are promoting anti-bullying and cyber bullying awareness workshops at my kids school this month. A bully, like many others have written, feels very insecure and threatened by others and the only way they can feel good about themself is to put others down. Too many victims are tormented and continue to suffer. I wonder if we will ever be able to stop it in the Internet age. At least more people are aware and more people feel comfortable reporting a bully when they come across one.
ReplyDeleteThe Internet really makes it worse. It makes people feel more insecure and threatened than ever. And it allows people go say things they may never say in real life.
DeleteSadly I know only too well a fe bullies.....in my family. I have finally accepted they are a lost cause, but there is that tiny word hope still hidden in my mind.
ReplyDeleteYvonne.
Family bullies are the worst. I've been bullied by family.
DeleteI've seen bullying occur all the time on Twitter; people decide they don't like someone and go in nonstop online attack mode. For example, I don't like Trump any more than anyone else does, but I do think that some of the stuff that's been written about him is almost as nasty as the stuff that comes out of his mouth. Also, I must admit that were a couple times where I got into arguments with strangers on Twitter. I finally ended a brief disagreement about police officers with one particularly aggressive troll (and she was a professor in real life, though thankfully not one I knew) who tried to keep provoking me even after I stopped talking to her; she called me a "snowflake" and kept insulting me, because she wanted to remind me of how stupid she thought I was.
ReplyDeleteSocial media is a breeding ground for bullies. Current events, especially about the election, race, or police officers, has brought about many nasty agreements on social media.
DeleteAnd I thought you were doing a post about the Republican candidate for President.
ReplyDeleteHa! No, I don't blog about politics. I don't even like to state my views or who I'm voting for on social media.
DeleteOh definitely. I hate bullies and always say something if I see someone acting like one. My brother is a bully and thinks it's funny to trash talk my friends on fb so when he wouldn't stop even when I asked...I put him on my 'restricted list' so now he can only see the posts that I make public.
ReplyDeleteI've experienced bullying from family on FB. I've blocked them from being able to send me FB messages.
DeleteAwesome post. Many bullies don't even realise they are bullies.
ReplyDeleteI think that can be true. Anyone be a bully, even if for a moment.
DeleteTo me any hater is a bully. Spread love and acceptance everyone. :-)
ReplyDeleteAnna from elements of emaginette
Love and acceptance is what this world needs.
DeleteSuch an important post, Chrys. Inspired by the latest in politics? Maybe not, but this is always a timely topic. Thanks for sharing this.
ReplyDeleteI wrote this last year. I always try to do a bullying post in October to help spread awareness.
DeleteThankfully Chrys, I can say I"m not and never have been a bully, but I've seen plenty in my time!
ReplyDeleteThat's good, Denise!
DeleteA poignant post, Chrys.
ReplyDeleteBTW: I'm really enjoying Seismic Crimes at the moment :)
Awesome! That makes me so happy. I can't wait to read your review when you're done. :D
DeleteI think, online especially, people forget there's a person on the other side of the screen.
ReplyDeleteI think that's probably easy to forget. The Internet can be so impersonal.
DeleteUh oh, you said, "Rant on social media." I better be careful.
ReplyDeleteSeriously though, great thoughts. I like your last point.
Ha! But your rants are different. ;)
DeleteOh no! I hope this post wasn't inspired by anything going on in your life, Chrys. :(
ReplyDeleteI managed to mostly escape bullying as a kid (except for one regrettable moment in junior high) but I've had bullying coworkers and bosses as an adult. In both cases, I quit my job. It's sad that bullies thrive in the corporate environment, often becoming directors and CEOs.
At the time I wrote this, it was à bout some people I know who don't realize they're bullies.
DeleteHow horrible that bullying made you quit your jobs.